I've been at a house-warming party for my ex tonight, where I met her new boyfriend..... Well, I'd already told her she shouldn't be dating again so soon after a disastrous end to her last relationship. But I went anyway, along with a couple of my friends. I was hungry and she does good food. But two hours later, I'd had enough of making nice.

He does seem alright. And of course I had in the back of my mind the thought that I'm dating now too. And she seems alright. We are NOT going to be making up a foursome any time soon.

Sat in the car this afternoon, it occurred to me that dating (and flirting with that woman in the club last night) is bound to put last year's love into perspective. I felt wonderful with my ex-lover in the three years we spent - off and on - together. But those feelings, that love, was a product of time and place - not something cast in stone for the rest of my life. The time and place has gone, the feelings must soon. And that's for the best. Unforgettable but not inescapable.